peer pressure

For most children it is filled with possibly and optimism. It is a chance to see old friends that they didn't get a chance to see over the summer and an opportunity to meet new friends. The social value of school should not be undervalued. It should be encouraged and supported by adults in the school system and at home. Adults often dismiss the importance of "friends" to stress hard work and grades. Friends are an important part of a child's life, but should not become the main influence when making decisions.

It is important to listen to children and their stories about their friends at school. How you listen is also important. As a parent the number one thing and the hardest thing is to NOT judge. Ask questions and guide indirectly. For example if your child said "friend x went to a party and there were drugs there and she tried it." If you as a parent launch into a lecture about the dangers of drugs the child may stop talking to you about it. Better to say "how do you feel about that?" Some time a week or two later, mention some of the dangers of drugs but not at the time. Or better yet watch a movie or a read an article with your child about the dangers of drugs. Guide their decisions and avoid "telling" them what to do on important issues. It is far more powerful if they think they have made their own decisions.